IFYL: Women and Money

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Ladies, the number one thing that can kill your relationship is your paycheck. Psychologists say that a skyrocketing number of women are making more money than their husbands. In fact, a recent Pew research study found that more than one in five men are married to women who out-earn them, and the number’s rising as more women earn college degrees than men, which propel them into higher earning jobs. It’s causing major damage to relationships, because experts say society programs men to feel like they always have to be the “top dog.” If their wife earns more than they do, it makes them feel emasculated. Even if they love their wife, they often have affairs simply because they want to be in control of at least one aspect of their life. In fact, men whose wives make more than they do are five times more likely to cheat! Female breadwinners often grow to resent their husbands. A lot of women are stressed out about being the bread winner, and still having to be the perfect wife and mother at the same time. They feel pressure to do it all – whereas men never had to. That’s because even when a woman provides for her family – she’s still expected to do the majority of the child-rearing and does twice as much housework as her husband. So, ladies, how do you make money a non-issue in your relationship?

Experts say discuss it at the very beginning of your relationship. You want to find out early on if they’re comfortable with you earning more. Also, be clear about what type of lifestyle the two of you expect, and how you’ll both achieve it.

Also, have your husband do the dishes. Experts say if you’re responsible for bringing home a bulk of the family’s income, your partner should do extra household chores. Don’t turn them into a houseboy. Find out what they want to do, and if they can’t stand a chore, like laundry, outsource it so you’ll both be happy.

-The John Tesh Radio Show Staff